Let’s claim July as Sexual Independence Month! Becoming sexually independent can look like what you want it to look like, so this month I’ll share some ideas that individuals can use to become “sexually independent”! But first, let’s discuss setting the tone for being able to claim sexually independence!
Whether you are a confident and assertive sexual being, or someone who is more curious or timid, there comes a time where we all become aware of our needs and desires. Sometimes this awareness comes naturally… you know those people who are just always “on”! Always ready. Then there are others who are comfortable to just “be”. If it happens, it happens. And then there are those who are in what I call “hibernation”! Much like a sleeping bear, hibernation for our sexual side of our being can mean that that part of ourselves can be “asleep”! You know that feeling! We all get it sometimes… It can be days, weeks, maybe even months or years when you aren’t aware of your sexual side of yourself! Work. Family. Stress. Financials. These all play into whether we are able to awaken our sexual side of our being to be open to allowing us to feel desire.
Below I am providing the Trystology Talk Episode 8 on Hibernation, for those that may want to “wake up” their bodies, if they find that this subject speaks to them!
Whatever stage you are in, on – content – hibernating – I’d like to have you choose this month to assert yourself and acknowledge your sexual independence!
I know this might not be an easy thing. How we respond to our needs and desires can vary. By default, some people will act on them, while others might naturally tuck those feelings aside and ignore or pretend they don’t exist. Other’s may not even be aware that they “aren’t in the game”. While these responses are natural and happen automatically, without thought, I am asking you to make a conscious choice to choose to “own it“… your sexual self!
Here’s the thing… no one checks in on us as to whether we’re doing well with our sexual selves. They might ask about whether you exercised. Meditated. Ate well. But when you meet your friends for coffee, they will most likely never ask if you’ve had your orgasm today! Really! Right?!? We can focus on our nutritional health, spiritual health, emotional health, physical health, but no one asks about or focuses (usually) on their sexual health! THIS MONTH, I want to change that! I want you to consciously choose to wake up your sexual side.
So what does that mean? And what are you choosing? Sexual independence is not much different than waking yourself up from hibernation. It’s choosing to self pleasure, or have intimacy with a partner, even when you’re not necessarily feeling like it! We take our vitamins when we’re not eating well. We exercise when we “don’t feel like it”. But when it comes to sex, and intimacy, we tend to think we have to feel like it! This isn’t really true! You can wake yourself up, and you can enjoy intimacy and pleasure… even if you don’t think you can.
All of this is so very personal, so take from this what resonates with you! If you just want a massage oil and a massage to gain your sexual independence this month, then choose that. If you need to learn to wake up the body, and want a stimulating balm, or figure out what vibrator might work best for you or your partner, then let’s explore that! And some people still may want to explore the orgasm-a-day philosophy… solo or with their partner. Either way, make a choice to find out what it is that might be interesting to you, and then… it’s all about play!
Sexual Independence Tools! Here we’ll provide some ideas to explore. We have curated tools that will help with regaining your sexual self. We will start with Stimulating Balms for the clitoris, as some are really tingly, almost electric, like the ON Balm. Other’s are more gentle, like Intimate Organics Gentle, or stronger, like Intimate Organics Intense or Coco De Mer Pure Delight! We will include Ride for men, which helps to extend their experience, or enhance it, and provide tools to play.
You’ll see that, much like my podcast on hibernation, we have included the full spectrum of tools in this section. From massage tools, to couples toys, and vibrators for him and her.
If you have any questions, or want any recommendations, don’t hesitate to give us a call! We even do private consultations, if you’re interested! We can be reached at 888-801-8952.
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