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A Valentine’s Sneak Peek of Trystology’s Top-10 Toys!

Hello readers, and welcome back to Trystology Talk Valentine’s edition, part two! We are kicking off Valentine’s weekend with a list of our Top-10 Toys, so if you’re new, lucky you!

Trystology started this “Month of Love” with a simple challenge. You were all invited to somehow prioritize yourselves every day for two weeks, all to prepare for authentic time spent with the ones you love this Valentine’s Day! Our question? How did that go? Would you say it was… easy?

If you did we’re jealous, because prioritizing ourselves wasn’t easy at all! Life moves fast and the truth is, in order to have quality alone time, we have to make it. There were days my only quality time was a thoughtful cup of tea. However, I also found pockets of time throughout the week where I could set time for myself more often. Easy? No. Worth it? You bet! So in light of our collective “ah-ha” moment, we have an idea!

This may sound bold, but after all this quality time reprioritizing the relationship with ourselves, Trystology wants to re-invent Valentine’s Day!

Maybe instead of roses or chocolates for just one day, we could dedicate time to ourselves whenever possible, (especially in February), to better appreciate those closest to us year-round. And yes, we have the ability to make that process sensual! Life is so multi-dimensional, and when we stay connected to ourselves, we can connect honestly with the ones we love! It is feasible to live our busy lives, and introduce romantic escapades, quality time, and even toys to our partners with fierce confidence as ourselves! It’s simply all about making the time.

And here’s a little secret – when we know what we like alone, we’re better equipped to excel in partnered bliss!  

So here it is, the wait is over! We proudly present Trystology’s Top-10 Toys, and wish you and your partner quality time… together!

#1 – Bondage Sets

You may be asking why we started here. Does it vibrate? Nope. Mandate penetration or aggression? Also noooooo! Bondage is all about taking something away to heighten something else, and yes, this comes in varying degrees. It requires consent above all else, because bondage is meant to aid in vulnerability as opposed to ever causing harm to another individual. And whereas flogging, restraints, ball-gags and blindfolds can seem scary, the true benefit of these tools isn’t defined by how brutally they’re used. The measure of their benefit exists within the deep intention of their use. 

As a quick example, let’s explore blindfolds! When we blindfold our partners, or allow them to blindfold us, we invite a heightened level of focus to our sensual experience. The human body is so attuned to knowing our surroundings that when one sense is removed, or hindered, the others heighten! Blindfolds, and other bondage tools, can give couples the opportunity to reconnect and rediscover each other, sweety with some spice so nice. Here are our favorite sets, but we also sell blindfolds galore! Take a browse. 

Top Shelf! Zalo and UpkoLuxurious and Romantic Bondage Kit: This set is luxury, gorgeous, and gilded with gold detail. If you’re seeking sexy Victorian glam, look no further!

#1 Top Ten Toys

Best Value! Rianne S Kinky Me Softly Bondage Set: This set is easy to pack up and doesn’t break the bank!

#2 – Liberator Wedge Pillows

I’d like to ask delicately if you’ve ever been in an intimate position that was… um… difficult to hold? Perhaps, unsteady? Maybe kinda awkward? Well, we all need some cushion for the pushin’ sometimes, and Liberator products are here to save you! We picked the Liberator Wedge Pillows as #2 on our list because of just how much comfort, control, and depth of sensation they provide couples by positioning them comfortably. These pillows are specifically designed to support backs while lifting the goods! They come in cute designs, they’re discrete, they’re strong, super durable, and they help! 

#2 Top Ten Toys

Honestly, just please get one! Please! You will not regret it, we promise!

#3 – Hot Octopus Atom Plus

One of the hardest questions any of us get in the shop is, “What is the best toy?!” The question usually accompanies hopeful eyes. The truth is we all have a different answer because every body is unique. To us, vibrating toys are defined by their type of vibration. As our long-time readers know, not all vibration is created equal! It’s just not. Some rumble, some buzz, some flicker, and all feel great to different people! Hot Octopus products sport a both rumbly and fast vibration all at once, and their Atom Plus does not disappoint.

#3 Top Ten Toys

This tool provides restriction to the penis, vibration to the testicles, and equal vibration to anyone enjoying the ride! The silicone is beautifully made, and my favorite part of this tool is the width of vibration for that cowgirl in you! Even though the Atom Plus is classified as a “cock-ring”,  it’s perfectly designed to vibrate the entire clitoral network of the rider.   

#4 – We-Vibe Moxie

We-Vibe products always find a way into our top recommendations for good reason! Their silicone is supple and smooth, and the vibration varies from low to strong seamlessly. We put the Moxie at #4 on our list because of how flirty it is! Looking to be a tease, or just teased? The We-Vibe Moxie snaps onto the panty-line with a durable magnet. Once in place, pull up those big girl panties and buzz around! You can keep the remote for a sneaky self-pleasured day, or surrender the controls to someone you love!

#4 Top Ten Toys

 

If you’re craving a fun date night, and have or love a clitoris, this toy turns up the heat for a steamy night’s end. 

Trystology Tip: While not all women require clitoral stimulation to achieve climax, most do. And not for, like, a few seconds either. The fact is, it takes a lot of women up to 40 minutes of stimulation to have an orgasm, and tools like this, teasing like this, can help clitoral companions get there faster!  

#5 – Aneros Syn V

We’re talking booty, boo! Ah, the Aneros Syn V. Full disclosure, if we were making a list strictly about anal play, men’s health, or orgasms by direct prostate engagement, this tool would be #1. The Aneros Syn V is designed to vibe directly on the prostate by way of the anus. The silicone is smooth, yet hard, for a steady, strong vibration that won’t quit. 

#5 Top Ten Toys

But Trystology… aren’t there implications to finding anal stimulation pleasurable? What if I’m… straight? 

Well, it’s one thing if anal play isn’t your thing, but men find internal stimulation pleasurable because there’s a lot of nerve endings down there, period. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with it! Better yet, internal stimulation with the prostate can cause much more intense orgasms for men while ensuring a fully emptied prostate. Health!

#6 – We-Vibe Tango X

So nice, We-Vibe made it on Trystology’s top ten toys twice! The We-Vibe Tango X is a very versatile tool. It has a rumbly vibration that goes from a steady low to a decent high. The glory of this tool is not in it’s crazy power, however. Rumbly vibrations penetrate the skin, pleasuring deeper nerves, so the Tango X provides pointed vibration for full body chills.

#6 Top Ten Toys

It’s also one of the longest bullet vibrators on the market. It’s a ‘choose-your-own-adventure’ bullet, and we approve!

#7 – Rianne S Plugs

The Rianne S Plugs made #7 on our list for all the right reasons! Even if this type of play makes you squeamish, please read!!

In our humble Trystology opinion, plugs don’t get the credit they deserve, but we understand why! This type of pleasure can seem really intimidating at first! I’ve said it in previous articles, and I’ll say it again… I don’t know you, but say you were standing in front of me, minding your business peacefully. Then, out of nowhere, I lunged at you. I guarantee your sphincter would pucker! Don’t act like it wouldn’t! 

When we are afraid, we tense! And anal play, when done incorrectly, can be incredibly uncomfortable. However, when done correctly, (by ensuring trust, consent and optimal arousal, using lube, relaxing, etc), anal play can take any sex life to the next level! These plugs made our top ten toys list because they can stimulate prostates just as effectively as they can stimulate g-spots! 

#7 Top Ten Toys

Rianne S. uses very soft silicone, and provides sets to steadily graduate the size of your plug if you want, and at your pace. They also offer gold metal plugs, allowing more advanced users to explore internal pressures and temp variations. And they’re so cute!

#8 – SpareParts Joque Harness

Here at Trystology, we completely understand the importance of finding a good harness. Strapping up can be so fun, so empowering, so intimate, but if the harness isn’t secure and comfortable, fully embracing your sexy self can be tough. So without further ado, we introduce the Joque Harness to our top ten toys list!

#8 Top Ten Toys

At #8, the SpareParts Joque Harness ensures the security you need for the passionate play you crave. The O-Ring is interchangeable, giving the wearer options regarding dildo sizes. Our favorite part of this harness is the sneaky pocket, perfectly made for bullets or vibes, so the wearer can give and receive. 

#9 – Vixen Creations Maverick VixSkin – Tie Bright

We can’t say enough good about VixSkin products, and since they’re here at #9, we’re thrilled to tell you why. The silicone used to create VixSkin dildos is supreme! These products are smooth yet sturdy, and beautifully shaped for thoroughly enjoyed fullness! And that’s not all…

#9 Top Ten Toys

Sure, a nice, realistic dildo is great, and this company creates many, but they also create products on the wild side… and this is important! Let’s face it! Some people love penises, real in all of their splendor, and others don’t! We picked this beautiful Tie Bright design to showcase a beautiful dildo that doesn’t take itself so seriously! If you’re looking for fullness, a smooth feel, and some delightful fun, the Maverick Tie Bright is one of our favorites!

#10 – An Authentic, Well-Taken Care of YOU!

#10 YOU!

We know this last one is cheeky, but authentic love requires all of you! Even if no toys ever make their way to your partnered or un-partnered bedroom, your creativity, desire, and presence will always belong to you. We at Trystology encourage you to foster relationships which encourage you to cultivate, renew, and remind yourself of the love you crave, and the life you strive to lead! This especially includes your relationship with yourself! Share that authentically!

“But Trystology, we’re busy!” Yeah, yeah, we are too. We’re not saying that here in 2022, it’s simple to make time for ourselves, our partners, or our passions. We’re just saying it’s necessary. So this Valentine’s Day, give the gift of time. Time to yourself and those you love doesn’t happen by magic. Like all things in life, these things happen when we plan for them. So plan to live a smile-worthy life! And start today!

Oh… and please, please make time for your orgasm. Own it! Self-love is the gift that keeps on giving, and Trystology wishes you and your partner abundance, joy, connected intimacy, and a very Happy Valentine’s Day!

Trystology would like to say a special thank you to AVN!!!!

AVN, (The Adult Video Network), has nominated Trystology as 2022’s Best Boutique!! In the NATION!! We don’t know how well you know the industry, but this is a HUGE HONOR!

First, congratulations to our very own Roylin Downs! None of this is possible without you, and you have uplifted your staff along with your community. You’ve changed our lives, enabling us to give the love you teach. Thank you, Roylin <3


And to our loyal customers, new and old, this really isn’t possible without you! We strive to give you the best only as a reminder that you deserve the best. Because you do, in all areas of your life! But only if you believe it.

We know you’re worth it, always! And we love you, Valentine! <3

Kinklab BedSpread Under Bed Bondage Straps

Quickly and easily transform your ordinary bed into a kinky den of delights with this set of high quality bondage straps.
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Kinklab’s Under Bed Bondage Straps allow for full teasing, pleasing, and exploration while your partner is held firmly in place – right where you want them! 78382

Tucks away for discrete placement and storage, these restraints are perfect for the playful, and serious participant!

Available at Trystology.com

Storms of Pleasure Bedroom Restraint Basic Delightware System

By Amber St. Clare
The Storms of Pleasure Basic Delightware System gives bedroom restraints an upgrade with this fun new harness/cuffs system. Storms of Pleasure created a restraint system that can be used anywhere, including the car, a hotel, the bedroom, a door, or wherever else you’d like. Unlike other harness and restraint systems, this system is easy to use, doesn’t require moving furniture or mattresses and when stored away, it’s quite discreet. The Storms of Pleasure Basic Delightware Systemcomes in a variety of colors, including purple, black, leopard print, red leopard print and more. The set comes in a storage bag that can be tied closed with an attached ribbon, and it includes the basic system which gives you: 2 wrist cuffs, 2 converters, 2 tethers with sandbags. The cuffs and sandbags are covered in a velvet fabric with a red/black leopard design. The converters and tethers are black and have hook closures to secure the restraints. The wrist cuffs fits 6-9 inches, and won’t cut into your wrists like some other types of cuffs. The tethers will stretch to fit over or under a door frame, and you can attach it to the bed without having to move or set it up underneath the box spring. The cuffs and tethers are easy to use and attach, and because the system isn’t bulky or heavy, it can be discreetly stored away until you’re ready to use it.

The tethers stretch from 13-24 inches, so it gives you a lot of versatility and makes it easy to set up in bed or anywhere else you want to have fun with some restraints. This restraint system isn’t’ meant for hanging or suspension, but it still offers a wide variety of ways to have fun using these restraints with your partner. I like the color and design of the cuffs and tethers, they are easy to put together and to re-assemble any time you’re ready. You can attach the tether over the top of a door, for against the wall sex, or even under the door, or on top of the bed for teasingly tempting sex where one partner is restraint. The restraints and cuffs will work with both women and men so that you can take turns being the one restrained and easily adjust the restraints to a custom fit. Easy to use and really fun! The patent pending design for this system is really unique, simple to use, and a whole lot of fun without worrying about too much set up or flimsy cuffs. You can get the Storms of Pleasure Basic Delightware System at Trystology with free shipping. They also have the Storms of Pleasure Deluxe Delightware System which comes with 2 Velvet Wrist Adornment Cuffs with Swarovski Crystals, 2 velvet Ankle Adornment Cuffs with Swarovski Crystals, 4 adjustable Mattress & Door Frame Converters, 4 adjustable Tethers, 1 Velvet Swarovski Crystal adorned blindfold all wrapped in a wooden storage box for $350.