Roylin shares her “Orgasm-a-day” philosophy with Cindy in this Episode 3 of Trystology Talk: Sex and the Empowered woman.
Why do we at Trystology promote this philosophy? It’s important to look at the challenges most men and women have when they approach their sex lives. There are not very many sources to get good information about sex… what’s “normal”, what’s right for me, is this something I should explore? We kind of find our way through our sex lives with a trial and error approach! At Trystology we know how good orgasms can be for you, so we are promoting that you have an orgasm-a-day… or one a week… or one a month, if you’re only having one a year! Figure out what’s right for you!
Why is this important? Orgasms give us something we can’t get any other way! Oxytocin, endorphins and antibodies to keep us healthy! They also relieve stress, help with headaches, and make us happy! AND They’re FREE!
Sometimes it can be hard to fit into our lives… much like exercise and vitamins. However, orgasms can be just as important as both of those things! For men, more frequent orgasms can improve prostate health, as well as cardiac health! For women, we can avoid atrophy, and as my grandmother, Marion Downs says, we might live longer! She quotes in her book “Shut Up and LIve: You know how!”, the Harvard Study on aging states that the more orgasms one has, the longer one might live, and it doesn’t matter if it’s with your partner, or by yourself! Well, then! Why not!
So this brings up the subject of Masturbation. I traditionally don’t use that word, preferring the “orgasm-a-day” or “self-pleasure” connotation… because it’s more subtle and I don’t want to scare anyone away… but here’s the thing:
“Don’t knock masturbation, it’s sex with someone I love” – Woody Allen
We may not be comfortable with the discussion of self pleasure, but it is something when we love ourselves, and “love on” ourselves, we get huge benefits… My goal is to have all people feel comfortable with their bodies, empowered knowing what works for them, and with the freedom to give themselves what they need! If your partner is home, GREAT! Have a shared experience! If they’re not, it’s okay, have an orgasm by yourself! The rest of the day will look AMAZING!
How??? You might ask!
My thing is that we should all understand what works for us! As women, our bodies are designed to take 20-40 min to have an orgasm. That can inhibit some playfulness, and delay the ability to “fit” an orgasm into our already busy lives… however, when a woman can find a tool or technique that works for them, they can turn themselves from what we call “crock-pots”, where we simmer to be able to achieve an orgasm, to a “microwave”… the term we use for men. When a woman is a microwave, they’re able to have an orgasm in 1-3 min, and go on with their day! Doesn’t that sound great!?!
With the new tools that are on the market, it’s not difficult for women to find different products that might work for them! We have everything from incredible stimulating balms, which help to “jump start” women, by stimulating the clitoris and bringing blood flow there, to toys of every shape and style. Air suction technology tools that help with imitating oral sex, and low or high vibration tools that could be used solo, or with a partner! Below are a few tools that I recommend for the “orgasm-a-day” philosophy for women, and a couple for men!
The newest offering from Womanizer, which you KNOW is one of my favorite tools for woman to achieve an orgasm is the Womanizer InsideOut! OMG! It’s a must have!!! Not only do you get the unique Air-Suction technology Womanizer has been known for, you also get the dual stimulation of internal g-spot vibration most women know and love!
Since it was introduced, Zumio has been a fan favorite of Trystology! It’s oscillating, pinpoint stimulation is PERFECT for “Power Girls” who crave that intense stimulation, without the numbing sensation of most wand style toys! AND it can fit between the bodies for a true intimate experience! With it’s “60 second orgasm” claim to fame, its certainly worth a look!!!
Jimmyjane Form 2, whether it’s the original or the LUX version, has been the number one selling clitoral toy for Trystology, since we began selling it 9 years ago! It’s low rumble, or high vibration suit women of all vibrational needs, all the way to my power girls! It’s small enough to be discreet, but strong enough to be just what’s needed! We don’t leave home without it! No trip is complete without the Jimmyjane Form 2
The Leaf Life is Trystology’s #2 selling couples toy! When it’s paired with a massage oil candle, like the Jimmyjane Afterglow, or our favorite massage oil/lubricant, Uberlube, the Leaf life can give partners so many options for sensual play, or lovemaking! The Leaf is adjustable for low rumbles, to high vibration… maybe not high enough for my power girls, but it’s an awesome toy to use on nipples, clitoris, or even a penis or perineum! And it’s oh, so discreet!
The Leaf Vitality is one of the most discreet, and versatile, rabbit style toys we carry! I swear we should design a planter pot, so women could just set it on their bedside tables to “hide” it from their family! It’s adjustable dual stimulation works for most women… maybe not my power girls, but that’s okay! We have other options for them! The dual stimulation assists women achieve an orgasm more easily!
The Ina Wave is a TRUE Power tool for Power Girls! It’s assertive clitoral stimulation does not let up, and it vibrational strength can go from a low rumble to a very strong vibration. This power tool is amazing in that it can isolate the sensation to clitoral only, g-spot only, or no vibration at all. AND it has an amazing ability to give the g-spot “come hither” wave… which has been a winner for mot of my customers! This toy is not for the faint of heart. It’s a true power tool!
The We-Vibe Sync is the most amazing partner play tools, as it can be used both inside the bedroom and out, and it can be used during lovemaking, or for foreplay or solo play! It’s one of the only toys that can give stimulation to both partners at the same time, and with its bluetooth enabled option or remote control, it takes partner play to a whole new level! Anywhere in the world! Don’t miss out on all the We-Vibe toys!
Tenga Egg are a great partner play tool for playing with a penis, or a wonderful solo play toy for those with penis’. The design on the outside of the egg are the design on the inside of the egg, so you can select your desired sensation… with more stimulation or less… They are able to be used for 1 to 8 times… depending on how rough you are with them! They do pop! Tenga says they are one time use! Just add lube!
The Tenga 3D is one of the best sleeves designed for the penis! It’s beautiful design makes it a subtle toy, when stored, and when turned inside out, it is an amazing sensory play, where the person playing with the toy can feel the sensations through the soft, proprietary material! It’s an awesome partner play tool, or solo play! And turn it inside out for easy cleaning!
One of the best, most effective, and yet dismissed male toys is the prostate stimulator, and the one that is a favorite starter, or even more advanced, is the Aneros Helix SYN! The statistics state that when the prostate is stimulated, it can give a man an orgasm 3 to 10 times stronger than a regular orgasm! With those kind if statistics, and the fact that it helps with prostate health, it’s certainly something worth exploring!
All these products can be found at www.trystology.com
Enjoy Masturbation Month in May!!!