At Trystology, we encourage #AnOrgasmADay !

I think about it, and it’s kind of funny!  I promote #AnOrgasmADay in the shop, but I rarely talk about it outside my one-on-one discussions with my customers!  For someone who’s had a blog for almost 5 years, I think that’s pretty funny!  It’s like I’m keeping it as one of my best kept secrets!  REALLY!  I mean, if it’s the basis for one of my core beliefs in my business, why not talk about it!?!?  So here goes!  From this day forward, I’m going to remind you… it’s important to have an orgasm a day… and if you don’t have one, at least to strive for it!

#AnOrgasmADay

So what’s the basis of this belief, you might be asking.  Well, here’s the thing.  An orgasm gives you something you can’t get any other way – oxytocin, endorphins and immunoglobulin A!  And it’s FREE!  Not only does an orgasm make you feel good… it’s good for you.

Let’s look at all the benefits of an orgasm:

• Stress reduction!  Oxytocin helps with stress, and leaves you feeling relaxed and safe!
• Helps you sleep! That’s right, if you’re lying awake at 3 AM, have an orgasm! It’ll help you sleep!
• Helps with headaches!  No more excuses about “I’ve got a headache”… we’ve got a cure for that!
• Increases intimacy with your partner!  If you’re partnered, it’s sometimes difficult to connect through the challenges of a long relationship, but if you’re enjoying intimacy together, it’s difficult to be angry, and you’re most likely willing to work it out!
• It resets you, and makes difficult situations more tolerable!  I always say that mother’s of small children, who don’t have a lot of time for sex and intimacy with their partners, NEED this most of all!  With an orgasm, you’re more likely to see the world in a whole different way!
• And extends our lives!  My grandmother, Marion Downs, always quoted the Harvard Study on Aging, which stated that the more orgasms one had, the longer one might live, and it didn’t matter if it was with your partner, or by yourself!  She lived until she was almost 101! I think she knew what she was talking about!

My Grandma, Marion Downs & I in 2014

So you can see there are MANY benefits to #AnOrgasmADay!

The challenge for many women is how to achieve this.  With most women it can take 20-40 minutes to have an orgasm!  There’s nothing shocking about that. It’s just the way we’re built!  I like to say that men are like microwaves and women are like crock pots.  Women just need a little simmering!  But what happens if we don’t have that kind of time every day?  Luckily for us, there are a few manufactures who are starting to make products that can help to turn women into microwaves, often making an orgasm possible in 1-3 minutes!  With that kind of “tool”, women can truly achieve #AnOrgasmADay !  Let’s take a look at a few:

Jimmyjane Form 2 Lux– This vibrator has been one of our top selling female toys.  With it’s unique shape, it’s great for nipple stimulation, or clitoral stimulation, and has varying speeds from a low rumble to strong vibration.  I like to tell women that they can take this vibrator into the shower… You need to shampoo your hair every other day or so.  Then you condition.  When you condition, you need to leave it on for 3-6 minutes usually.  With the Form 2 you’re able to have an orgasm in 1-3 minutes.  When you leave the shower, you’re whole perspective on the world is different!

Jimmyjane Form 2 LUX

Jimmyjane Form 2 Slate

Womanizer – This newly introduced toy from Germany is fast becoming a favorite, due to its Pleasure on Demand concept, and touchless air technology.  This is one of the only toys that is so confident about orgasm that they have a money back guarantee!  It’s also a bit addictive.  Once one is able to have orgasms this easy, it’s easy to see why we’re promoting an orgasm a day!

Lelo Ina Wave – The Lelo Ina Wave is one of the few rabbit vibrators with “wave” technology.  It has an “arm” that moves up and down to simulate the “come hither” movement needed for the G-Spot, while having incredible vibrations… or no vibe at all!

And lastly I’ll recommend the newest Wand Style toys that have for decades brought women to their knees…

Doxy – A powerful plug-in vibe with 9000RPM and variable speed, with pulsations.

Magic Wand Rechargeable– The reinvented 1968 standby Hitatchi Wand, which now has a dense silicone head, 6300RPM, which feel somehow stronger than the Doxy, 4 power levels and 4 pulsations. The unique thing about this one is it’s rechargeable, and when it’s dead and you NEED it, it’s Plug-N-Play!  Crazy!

And Last but not least, the Palm Power and Palm Power Rechargeable!  Strong Power, adjustable speed, and one connected, one cordless!

Can’t go wrong with any of these!  For other incredible toys, check us out at www.trystology.com

And don’t forget #AnOrgasmADay !

Womanizer- A terrible name for an AMAZING Sex Toy!

Okay, Ryan, you win!

When I met with Ryan and Frank today at the Womanizer sex toy booth, I was more than slightly skeptical!  Here they had a sex toy that they said “GUARANTEED” a woman an orgasm! REALLY!  Mind you, there were two men in the booth, neither with a clitoris, telling me that this Womanizer sex toy would give any woman an orgasm in less than a minute. (With, of course, the disclaimer that every woman is different.)

They quoted stats about this % of women enjoyed it, and that % of women achieved an orgasm. Stats about how it’s the #1 sex toy in the US.  #1 selling sex toy with my competitors.  #1 selling sex toy for women in Europe since it launched just over a year ago.

These were men who were in the business to sell me something.  Now, these men are professionals I respect, but count me a skeptic if I don’t think men can understand a woman’s body, and can be damn good at quoting stats!  (Truth?!?)

Okay, so here is what I’m looking at:

The Womanizer (terrible name for a product in the US, but I’m told to “get over it, it works!”) is a “touchless stimulation” toy, that claims to deliver “fast and often multiple orgasms on demand”.  “100% Pleasure Everytime” they claim. REALLY!?!? It’s a small hand held device, that’s rechargeable but shouldn’t be put near/in water. When you place the small silicone node on the palm of your hand, it barely registers the suction it claims to produce these amazing orgasms from.  With a push of the jeweled button, you are introduced to 4 other sensations that create a slightly stronger suction with each press.  At this point, I’m still not sure if that would do the trick, but I’m game.

Each of the toys are pretty in their own right.  Turqouise, Black w/leopard, Pink/Purple w/leopard, Rose limited edition, Heart/wings limited edition, and the amazing Swarovski crystal elements versions!  OMG… beautiful!

As I’ve said, I was quite skeptical.  I’ve had amazing toys that were able to give a woman an orgasm in 1-3 min before, but this idea of touchless, quiet, suction-oriented toy? I wasn’t sure.

After trying the Womanizer sex toy, all I can say is … OMG!  and REALLY!!!!  Yes, really!

I can’t explain it, except to say it reminds me of suction from a lover’s mouth during oral sex.  That sort of suction you don’t want to end, at least not until you’ve achieved an orgasm, which this toy seems to assist with quite nicely.  While I was told that most women don’t go past the third speed while using it, I took it as a challenge to start much higher, then was ever so grateful for the quick button that took it back down to the first level with a touch of the button.

So yes, we’ll be carrying the Womanizer sex toy. (I may just end up calling it the “Kiss Me There” Suction Vibrator!) But you can get yours at Trystology.com  It’s that good.

One of the best boutique sex toy brands improves with Crave Flex Vibrator.

Crave is one of the best boutique sex toy brands available today.  I have enjoyed watching Ti and Michael grow their wonderful brand since their first crowdfunding efforts for the Crave Duet.  Based out of San Francisco, they have developed a brand that exemplifies quality.  Whether you’re looking at the cuffs, vibrator necklace, one of the vibrators like Duet, Solo, Wink, or one of the fabulous Vesper necklaces, they are all solid works of art, and made of only top quality materials using the most discrete designs.

And now we meet the Crave Flex Vibrator and Crave Flex Duet Vibrator!  Built out of high grade silicone, these two discreet vibrators offer slimline styles with effective vibration.  Each has 4 power levels and 4 sensation modes; one solid and 3 pulsations.  They are also waterproof, rechargeable and quiet!

The Crave Flex Vibrator is one of the first to be so petite, and yet so powerful!  It’s so slim that it fits easily between the bodies during lovemaking, and is amazing for clitoral stimulation or for use as a teasing toy. The Crave Flex Vibrator comes with a sleeve for storage in a purse or travel case and is waterproof, rechargeable… in your computer’s USB port no less!  It’s quiet too, crazy quiet!  No more “the neighbors might hear my toy” with this one!  The only one the neighbors might hear is YOU!

 The Crave Duet Flex Vibrator carries on the tradition of the Crave Duet in offering dual stimulation for clitoral stimulation for women, or nipple stimulation for men or women.  The two nodes, which are made of silicone, are firm and yet flexible, as the name Flex suggests.  This is an awesome vibrator for travel, and easy to charge with the USB charger in your computer or a USB phone charger.  Being waterproof, it offers many opportunities for play.  I love how Crave suggests that this product is “virtually silent” because it truly is!

One of the most amazing things is the price point of these products.  Being the entry point for high quality silicone sex toys is fairly high, we are so pleased that these vibrators are being offered at $89 for the Flex and $109 for the Flex Duet!

These wonderful Crave toys can be found at Trystology.com

Light up your bedroom disco-style with Vibratex Butterfly Vibrator

As long as I’ve been in the business, Vibratex has been a classic brand that offers the original styles and shapes for vibrators!  Some of my favorite offerings have always been the light-up rainbow vibrators, specifically the Vibratex Butterfly vibrator and the Vibratex Thunder Cloud!

I had a chance to see them again this past week at the ANME Tradeshow in Burbank, and it reminded me how much I LOVE them!  While we carry some of the newest, hottest vibrators available today (think Ina Wave, We-Vibe 4 Plus, and Je Joue Nuo) we still carry some of the classics, like the Thundercloud and Butterfly!

The Vibratex Butterfly vibrator has been redesigned into Sugar Pop, however it’s nice to remember that the original Butterfly has rotating beads, which some women may prefer over the beaded discs of Sugar Pop.  Sugar Pop also does not have our fun rainbow lights, reminiscent of the Disco!  And as Eddie from Vibratex states, the lighted rainbow can help men find their way, especially in the dark!  He makes me laugh!  Butterfly, as well as Sugar Pop, are both made out of elastomer and are battery operated, NOT Waterproof, and not so quiet, but their price point can be more desirable than the quieter, rechargeable toys!  The Vibratex Butterfly vibrator measures 4.5″ insertable length and 1-3/4″ in diameter.

For those who want MORE, the Vibratex Thunder Cloud vibrator offers a soft elastomer exterior with quite a bit of girth!  I’ll never forget the first time I met Thunder Cloud!  It was my first trade show and there I was in the Vibratex booth smiling and watching with amazement this substantial toy go round and round with lights going off!  My husband walked up to me and asked “Do you want that?”… to which I replied… “It makes me laugh!”   However, while Thunder Cloud is cute, with it’s softness and rainbow colors, it is no laughing matter.  It’s quite the hefty rabbit style vibrator, with 2-1/2″ diameter, and 5″ insertable length!

Come over and rock your disco vibe at Trystology!