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Trystology’s Hunting For Treasure This Valentine’s Month!

The kind within, not without. You’ve just been invited to a self-love treasure hunt!

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.”

Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

I know writers have written about love for centuries, but these wise words from Paulo Coelho jumped off the page when I first read The Alchemist. They immediately sparked the thought, “Pssst! Yes, excuse me, but… has anyone seen my heart?! I need to find my treasure… now!!”

And it’s always right where I left it… on the inside.

Trystology Talk is back, and here to ring in this month of L-O-V-E with a Pre-Valentine’s Day self-love treasure hunt!

Your challenge, if you dare to accept, is no simple task! Team Trystology invites you to join us as we relocate, recalibrate, and renew our hearts to properly assess how they’re functioning and impacting our lives.

Our goal?

To love authentically!

And look, I’m not saying the way you love now isn’t wonderful! I’d imagine you’re like most of us – great sometimes, while lacking others. That’s normal! However, the better we assess our own emotional needs, the more understanding we have of ourselves and others. We learn to love deeper. Isn’t it true? Anytime we deeply look into ourselves, we recognize just how complex this human experience really is. In all that vastness, you too deserve love. Behind your eyelids, you deserve your own love.

Sounds great, I know… but what is love?!

(Baby, don’t hurt me!… Look, you’d think it if I didn’t write it, and if you don’t get it, enjoy your youth…)

Theoretically, I’m not qualified to answer this question. Scientifically I’m not either, but the emotion of love is primarily governed by the brain chemical, oxytocin. Oxytocin is produced upon orgasm, yes, but more specifically, it’s also the chemical that makes us feel attached to our friends, families, and partners. It combats stress by regulating cortisol levels in the body, proving a happy life is in fact a healthier one too!

Remember, though, we said challenge, and in order to find our treasure, we have to look within.

Isn’t it interesting how much our minds wander, from the past to the future, while our bodies and hearts remain restricted by this present moment? Sometimes we get caught in the race of life and forget we need our own attention too! Our health and well-being depend on it!

So, your challenge is this:

Go to your calendar, you’re embarking on Trystology’s Self-Love Treasure Hunt!! For the next 14 days, you must do something for yourself and OWN IT! Every. Day. It could be a bath. Perhaps a meditation or a yoga routine. Maybe it’s a walk, or a quiet moment to enjoy a hot coffee. Could be a song, or a new playlist dedicated to yourself. We recommend including time to self-pleasure! Whatever resonates with you, (and feasibly makes sense as an addition to your life), set reminders on your phone to follow through, all the while keeping your intention clear. This time is meant to ask yourself what you need right now, without judging the response.

I know this self-love treasure hunt isn’t easy, because on January 15th, Trystology began a 21-day challenge highlighting our gorgeous, and my new favorite, Chakrubs collection. These authentic crystal tools vary in shape and design, and benefit anyone seeking an intentional and natural addition to their sensual lives. Chakrubs features the discrete Slim, the full Original, the powerful Curve, and one of the oldest passion products known to women – the yoni egg.

Chakrubs genuine gem products come in nephrite jade, rose quartz, amethyst, black obsidian, quartz, and rhodonite. They are only safe when inserted vaginally, but can comfortably remain inside of the body for multiple hours. Once in, the egg acts as a weight for the vaginal wall to both squeeze and birth. They add intention to meditation, and make for a pleasant, gentle reminder to do your Kegels! (<— Mayo Clinic link, and worth a read!)

Trystology tip, please don’t disregard!: When seeking your yoni egg, or any crystal products meant for internal use, please find manufacturers who guarantee safety. Some crystals and stones are porous, leaving room for bacteria to grow. We provide Chakrubs tools because they’re ethically sourced, and made for internal pleasure. Just check their FAQ’s!

I’ll be honest – this challenge has been harder than I thought.

All of the Chakrubs products have an optional journal, and each prompt is deep. For instance, right here and now, what are you birthing into this world? Or this – what most often keeps you from accomplishing your goals? And maaaybe those are simple for you, but as a mid-challenge report, I’m frustrated how difficult it is to prioritize time for myself! But I’m also hopeful. Slowly, day after day, I am getting closer to my treasure.

Stay tuned for our final challenge updates. In the meantime, turn your internal compass toward your heart, and walk with us. Again, set reminders on your phone to do something for you. It might not be easy, but it’s worth it.

Happy Hunting! Treasure awaits!

For updates on the challenge, please follow us on Instagram!! @trystology

Your Orgasm, Your Pleasure… OWN IT THIS YEAR!

To all of our readers, followers, clients and friends, Trystology wishes you a joyfully kind, abundantly healthy, and sensually loving, Happy New Year!! 

Trystology here, as always, to encourage you to find the pleasure you deserve in your relationships, bodies, and lives throughout the new year! With 2021 in the rearview and 2022 ahead, how can we inspire the world and ourselves, even having gone through such awe-striking shifts? We are all people changed, yet we still can find ways to smile and enjoy our lives. Jobs are different. However, joy and heartache together make deeper capacities for love!

Here’s the thing… I think there’s a reason Trystology has succeeded through this pandemic. By encouraging people to find the pleasure they deserve!

I think we’ve exposed a wide community to self-care on levels we never thought possible. We all know so… we’ve seen it! We’ve seen women tear up, made non-binary people feel beautiful. All of us have had amazing conversations with great couples while empowering individuals and families. Trystology connected with a non-profit organization who resonated with us, (The Coalition For Family Harmony! We love you!), and we went Live on Instagram together! We’ve truly moved a needle very few organizations are able to even budge… at all! 

We are all, also, a group of women who share, dream, and create together. All while recognizing the feminine power we hold for each other. 

I somehow want this blog to be about empowerment and manifestation, and how a sexual practice, whether alone or partnered, can be a creative and effective way to manifest the life you want! 

I know times can feel tough, but collectively, this is what we at Trystology are doing for our community, isn’t it? And it’s working. We are for real… touching lives in very crazy times. 

The world is becoming exposed, because guess what?! We should ALL feel free to express exactly who we are! And know deep aspects as gems for ourselves too. That these don’t have to be separate things!

We have so much to celebrate this year. And somehow, we want our community to be encouraged to make the same magic in their lives too.

You know, I’ve never personally been a fan of resolutions, but in honor of this year, we pose one.  Own your orgasm this year!  Seriously! Own it!!!

This past year has been a lot for any brain to take on – and if you’ve followed us for any time, you may know that the brain is the biggest sex organ!

Not the genitals…  An orgasm is a unique reflex governed by the brain, expressed through the genitals, that releases a unique cocktail of dopamine (pleasure, desire, motivation), oxytocin (the bonding hormone), prolactin (satisfaction), and vasopressin (pain relief). Once climax is achieved, the brain itself slows down, and we’re left happy, sleepy, and relaxed. This cocktail also combats cortisol, our body’s alarm system made by the kidneys to help us run from danger.

What causes too much cortisol these days?

Stress!  Overwork!  And Judgements we might carry with us… from whatever source you trust… So our advice is to make time for YOU! Self Care, and self pleasure!  Here at Trystology we promote an orgasm-a-day. Are we saying regular climaxing is a fix all? No. But give this a try:

Find a quiet moment alone. Close your eyes, and see yourself and the fully realized you, then see if you can use your orgasm to become more and more of that. Make it a practice, and see what happens. Because we’re here to tell you this – beauty, wealth, success, blah, blah, blah – those things don’t validate you, or make you sexy. Authenticity, and perhaps a little self pleasure… that, however, does.

As you encourage yourself to find the pleasure you deserve this year… come as you are.

Take a look at yourself, and say proudly, “I am the only me! The same creative force that made mountains, oceans, stars and trees made me! And deep within me, that same creativity pulses. I am the Queen of my body, or the King of my soul! I own my orgasm!”

Wear the skin you’re in proudly, and let it become your home. Know, deep within, that superficiality does not validate you. Your heart, soul, uniqueness and owning your pleasure does.

To our regular readers and shoppers, thank you. Without you, none of this is possible! 

Shout out to our vagina owners!

Trystology is hosting a 30 day challenge to further encourage you to find the pleasure you deserve this year!

This may look like a quail egg, but it’s not. It’s one the oldest vaginal tools in the world, called the yoni egg, one of the many products created by Chakrubs. The yoni helps keep the vaginal wall tight, which in turn, strengthens our orgasm, while others have penetrative girth. The challenge, if you so choose to take it, is to use these gorgeous crystal tools  to encourage you to find the pleasure you deserve throughout the new year! It’s a personal 21-day devotion to self. Take a deep dive into the comprehensive four-phase workbook developed by Founder Vanessa Cuccia, designed to support you in making your Chakrubs practice a habit that enriches every area of your life.

Create a deep, transformative relationship with your Chakrub, awaken your erotic potential and be supported by practical tips like how to introduce yourself to your Chakrub, different ways to energetically cleanse your Chakrub, how to ask for and receive guidance from your Chakrub, internal and external massage techniques, and more! 

Please follow us on Instagram! The challenge starts January 15th, so stay tuned there, and get your Chakrubs while supplies last!